Hi Speccybeard.. I'm going to answer this post at some point properly, but I wanted to say thank you for asking and ask how you are first? Are you feeling festive.. or quite the opposite? Xxx
Hello, I would I say was okay but not great. Life is difficult but I'm being positive.However I am very feeling very festive and hope to bring some joy.
I'd say I feel pretty similar to you.. I was dreading Christmas due to so many issues with family members, but having to prepare everything and buy presents for my children has forced me into the festive spirit whether I wanted to feel it or not! I hope you have a lovely Christmas and manage to stay positive xx
I am cautiously optimistic for Christmas this year. There is so much family drama and living a 10 hour drive away is a great insulator! I am heading home this year and hope to see some cousins and rekindle old relationships that were collateral damage by our parents fighting. I feel thats what the holidays are about right?
I just got home from overseas Saturday so no tree, no lights, no shopping done and I feel bad about that. Lighting up the house just makes the block feel more festive and it actually is bothering me more than I want to admit that I haven't hung any yet, I feel like I am letting people down. I know it's irrational but the feeling is real, christmas cheer is wonderful when it happens. Nothing a few hours of being an adult won't fix.
Christmas can be a tough time, as you say... 100%- I've had my share over the years. I'm feeling strangely optimistic for this year and pre-planning has helped a lot, so would say I'm doing well in the run up (famous last words).
Sorry that you are finding things difficult, but great you're being positive. Support is always there if you want it - even on a WAM forum.
It's great how Christmas, for some, can really time to cheer the spirit. Whether it be lights on house, preparing for kids or just seeing through a well made plan, we can all find some joy.
fslong1 said: I'm not doing well at all. The holidays bring out the worst in my depression, anxiety, sadness, and everything else.
If you need someone to talk to you can PM me. I used to feel this way and through some heavy therapy and long conversations am trying to be more optimistic about the holidays. It is tough because it is put on such a pedestal to be perfect in every way. Reality is usually not even close to perfect.
Personally I'm ok. I see my folks on Christmas day (my brother decides on the day due to his feelings and ability to 'people'). Other than that I open my house up to friends who can't see family or are stuck in other ways. Always food, board games and Mario Kart at my house for those that need it
Silver_sea said: Personally I'm ok. I see my folks on Christmas day (my brother decides on the day due to his feelings and ability to 'people'). Other than that I open my house up to friends who can't see family or are stuck in other ways. Always food, board games and Mario Kart at my house for those that need it
That's an awesome thing to do. We always invite anyone alone at Christmas to ours.
I am doing ok I have a health condition. Some things have been a struggle and I have faced somechanges that are not for the better, but there are good things too. Achievements. help me to feel positive. If anyone is struggling and needs a hand you are welcome to message me Best wishes to all Take care
Things have been tough since my dad died. We're still waiting on benefits, so we won't be having a very big Christmas this year. Our in laws kind of screwed us over when it came to who got what when my dad passed. I'm looking for a job to make enough money before XMas if that's possible (if not just to have work in general) and I'm thinking about selling stuff I might not need since moving to a much smaller cottage after we didn't need such a big house.
Doing well here at Messy Married Couple. Meds are keeping me sane. But I understand when some people are lonely or anxious. If you need help, please reach out to somebody.
Didn't really have Christmas. My dad died earlier this year and certain inlaws manipulated grandparents into making decisions that left myself and my mother without what we should have gotten when my dad passed. Times have been better. We're waiting for what benefits we were able to get- It was supposed to have been here, but we're still waiting.
Slapdash WAM said: Didn't really have Christmas. My dad died earlier this year and certain inlaws manipulated grandparents into making decisions that left myself and my mother without what we should have gotten when my dad passed. Times have been better. We're waiting for what benefits we were able to get- It was supposed to have been here, but we're still waiting.
I am sorry to hear that. I hope it all works out in the end.
Slapdash WAM said: Didn't really have Christmas. My dad died earlier this year and certain inlaws manipulated grandparents into making decisions that left myself and my mother without what we should have gotten when my dad passed. Times have been better. We're waiting for what benefits we were able to get- It was supposed to have been here, but we're still waiting.
I am sorry to hear that. I hope it all works out in the end.
Thank you. I hope for generally anything good at this point, but I am at a point. *shrug*
I've found it a struggle, 2nd Christmas without Dad & my own mental health issues hand been quite high, but so grateful Gran is out of hospital for it. I think it's hard with the pressure of society telling us we should be happy and it's 'the best time of the year', when for some of us it's not, it's a hurtful reminder of things! But we plod on and we don't realise how strong we actually are at times. Sending huge hugs & splats to everyone feeling it. X
bsmessybakery said: I've found it a struggle, 2nd Christmas without Dad & my own mental health issues hand been quite high, but so grateful Gran is out of hospital for it. I think it's hard with the pressure of society telling us we should be happy and it's 'the best time of the year', when for some of us it's not, it's a hurtful reminder of things! But we plod on and we don't realise how strong we actually are at times. Sending huge hugs & splats to everyone feeling it. X
Sorry it's tough. Christmas being the most wonderful time of the year can be a wonderful myth. But, it just isn't for so many of us. I hope you can find some joy this season and that things get easier for you.
Hey, it's so kind of you to ask us all and show concern
The holidays for me are a weird time... I'm currently long-distance with my partners, and my local family is a bit crazy, so holidays are a mixed bag. As the only person in the family who celebrates a different winter holiday than Christmas, I get invalidated pretty much all the time (my aunt has explicitly asked me before, "Why can't you just do... whatever it is you do, but still CALL it Christmas?", which as you can imagine is a pretty painful thing to hear).
My job also decided that it was the perfect time to drop a massive project on me, which is the last thing I feel like doing right now, but at least it gave me an excuse to leave the gatherings early
I'm trying to rescue it by building some really cool WAM toys in my workshop, though, so hopefully I'l be able to ring in the new year with a resounding SPLAT!
CytheSplatPuppy said: Hey, it's so kind of you to ask us all and show concern
The holidays for me are a weird time... I'm currently long-distance with my partners, and my local family is a bit crazy, so holidays are a mixed bag. As the only person in the family who celebrates a different winter holiday than Christmas, I get invalidated pretty much all the time (my aunt has explicitly asked me before, "Why can't you just do... whatever it is you do, but still CALL it Christmas?", which as you can imagine is a pretty painful thing to hear).
My job also decided that it was the perfect time to drop a massive project on me, which is the last thing I feel like doing right now, but at least it gave me an excuse to leave the gatherings early
I'm trying to rescue it by building some really cool WAM toys in my workshop, though, so hopefully I'l be able to ring in the new year with a resounding SPLAT!
Family can be interesting at times. I hope it gets better and am glad there are some positives in the workshop.